This guide is to help you squirt when masturbating. Also, if you are in a relationship, read it with your partner to help them understand how to get you to that sometimes elusive female ejaculation.
Before going into the detail of how to give yourself a squirting orgasm, it’s important to be familiar with your own anatomy and get to know where all your ‘pleasure pockets’ are within your genital area.
The G Spot
The g-spot is the most important area to concentrate on when getting to know how to squirt. Your g-spot is located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 inch (25mm) and 3 inches (75mm) in from the entrance.
While some medical professionals still dispute the existence of a g-spot, we firmly believe it does exist. However, please be aware that the sensitivity of the g-spot varies from woman to woman. Yes ladies, we are all different.
When you are not sexually aroused your g-spot is difficult to find, if not nigh on impossible. However, when you are aroused it gets bigger and more pronounced. As it grows bigger, it feels soft, spongy, and slightly ribbed to the touch… very much like the roof of your mouth, but a lot softer.
The Skene’s Gland
When you rub and press on your g-spot, you are stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland – sometimes referred to as the female prostate.
The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and also drains into the uthera. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt (ejaculate) from.
It’s not possible to stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, because it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. It is just above your g-spot. You can only stimulate it indirectly when you rub and press on your g-spot.
Something to note while we’re on the Skene’s gland:
The results of a scientific study carried out on women in 2002 by Emmanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University, showed the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. Jannini also found a few cases where a Skene’s gland didn’t even exist.
It’s thought the varying size, and even lack of, a Skene’s gland is the possible reason why some women can squirt readily, while others struggle.
The clitoris plays little part in your ability to squirt. Clitoral orgasms are totally different from g-spot orgasms. Only stimulation of the g-spot makes you squirt.
This means the rest of your anatomy is going to take a back seat while you learn to squirt and give yourself gushing g-spot orgasms. Get the towels ready.
To keep things simple, we won’t be discussing the pleasure-giving attributes of the clitoris for the rest of this guide. If you want to learn great clitoral stimulation techniques, then pop over to our other masturbation guide here, Masturbation Tips For Women.
One of the key steps in training yourself to squirt is to appreciate that you need to gradually build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by merely following the methods we show you here. You also need to be highly sexually aroused (the wetter the better), comfortable, and relaxed.
On your way to arousal, getting yourself comfortable and relaxed is important. We all have different ways to relax and chill. For you it could be lying in bed naked, for others it could be while taking a shower or soaking in the bath.
You may find you need to experiment a bit to find out what works best for you.
Next, you need to be highly sexually aroused. Again, we’re all different but generally, one or two of these suggestions will work:
- Reading erotic stories
- Watching porn
- Fantasising about something or someone
- Fingering yourself
- Playing with your breasts and nipples
- Using a vibrator or dildo
- A glass or two of wine
- All of the above
When getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about finding your g-spot. Focus on the other areas of your body first. Ideally, you should try to spend about 10-20 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are on the very edge of wanting to orgasm.
As you get more and more aroused, your Skene’s gland swells up, which in turn makes your g-spot larger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is because it’s located right next to your bladder and puts extra pressure on the bladder as it gets bigger. Don’t let this worry you. This is normal.
At this point, your g-spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina a couple of knuckles in.
All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to a gushing squirt. Without it, your Skene’s gland will not have swelled sufficiently and your g-spot won’t be very sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself aroused beforehand, it’s going to be a lot harder to squirt. Now, the good stuff…
Quick Note: Every woman responds differently to what we’re going to show you below. Don’t worry, just experiment to discover what works best for you.
The Hook is the best technique when using only your hand. To perform The Hook, lie on your back and open your legs. Slide your hand down your stomach, with the palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down like this:
Now, you need to find your g-spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the hook position. There are a number of ways to massage your g-spot using The Hook position…
Pressing The Button
You can press your g-spot repeatedly with your fingers a bit like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you need to apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need more intense pressure. Pressing is pleasurable, but you may need more active stimulation to get you to a squirting orgasm.
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your fingers will allow the tips to repeatedly run back and forth over your g-spot, giving a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure you apply and exactly where you apply it.
The Arm Shaker
The Arm Shaker is a combination of Pressing The Button plus Come Hither… on steroids!
Instead of using just your fingers to stimulate the g-spot, you use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your g-spot. Then start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously.
Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your g-spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. The Arm Shaker is almost guaranteed to give you a g-spot orgasm.
Metal or glass dildos are perfect for squirting because they are completely rigid and won’t bend when you apply pressure to your g-spot. If you prefer using a vibrator, a penis shaped one will have a greater effect than those designed to stimulate just the clitoris.
Squirting During Penetrative Sex
As well as enjoying a squirting orgasm when masturbating, you might also like to do it with your partner. The key is for him to insert his penis at the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man only needs to penetrate your vagina by about 2-3 inches (50 – 75 mm) to make you ejaculate. The diagram below shows the depth and angle his penis needs to be to press on and rub over your g-spot.
If you find this doesn’t work for you, then get him to adjust the angle of penetration slightly:
Pressure and Blissful Release
As your g-spot gets stimulated when masturbating or during sex, you will start to feel a slight build up of pressure inside you. Many women say this feels like they need to pee. This is normal, for two reasons:
- Your Skene’s gland is very close to your bladder and as it grows it puts pressure on the bladder, which in turn increases the feeling of needing to pee.
- As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like you need to release the pressure. Since the Skene’s gland empties through the urethra it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So don’t hold back and let it all go. There is no way to avoid feeling like you need a pee.
Try not to worry about this. Some women feel the need more than others. All you should do is to keep doing what you’re doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to build and rise up inside you until you eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women are unable to clear when wanting to squirt.
As the pressure builds and you feel yourself on the edge of orgasm, it’s important to let go and be OK with what is about to happen. For some, this involves completely relaxing themselves, while others feel they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, don’t be afraid to experiment to see what works best for you and gives you the most pleasurable gushing bliss.