Virtually everyone has heard stories about a mysterious spot inside a woman which – if properly stimulated – will send her into unbridled sexual ecstasy.
Known as the G spot, this area has been the subject of several books, countless magazine articles and numerous internet discussion forums.
So does the G spot really exist?
If it does, how do you know how to find it? The simple answer is yes, the G spot DOES exist and in reality there is nothing mysterious about it at all.
The G spot is an area of increased sensitivity that many women like to have stimulated. Named after Ernst Grafenberg – a German doctor who wrote about “an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that swells during sexual stimulation” – the G spot was popularised during the Women’s Movement in “The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality”, a best-seller co-authored by Alice K. Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry.
The G spot cannot possibly live up to all the hype surrounding it. It is simply one more pleasant place to play with. While all women have a G spot, not all notice anything different when it is stimulated… and some women actually dislike the sensation.
So don’t be discouraged if you can’t find your own G-Spot. And don’t be alarmed if you don’t like the feeling or are able to reach G spot orgasm. Remember, we are all different!
Finding your G Spot
The G spot is located along the upper-front wall of the vagina, about an inch or two (25 to 50mm) in towards the stomach.
Try some finger exploration…
Lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent and rest your feet on the bed in front of you. Insert your middle finger into your vagina and gently stroke the front wall behind the pubic bone, about 50mm in. You should feel a patch of skin with a different texture from the rest of your vaginal walls… slightly rough or “ruffled”.
Using a “come here” motion, press into the centre of this ruffled patch until you feel an area sensitive to pressure. This is your G spot.
It’s actually on the other side of your vaginal wall, which is why you’ll probably respond more to pressure than light stroking. The area is about the size of a pea, but can enlarge to the size of a walnut when you’ve really got going!
You should also know that many women feel like they need to pee when this area is stimulated. This is due to the fact that, as it enlarges, it presses on the same nerves that signal a full bladder. However, most women find, as stimulation is continued, this feeling goes away and is replaced with waves of pleasure.
Doing the G Spot Jig
The G spot is not a magical button, but rather an area of their vagina that some women enjoy having aroused.
The following steps to discovering your G spot are written for self-exploration, but can be modified for use with your partner…
- Relax. This should be fun, not a goal-oriented mission.
- Use a suitable water-based lubricant.
- Masturbate in your usual way until you feel aroused.
- Insert one or two fingers into your vagina, crooking them up toward your belly (12 o’clock position, if you are lying on your back).
- Press firmly against the roof of your vagina about one-third of the way in.
- You should feel a small ruffled lump that increases in size with continued stimulation.
- Start slowly. Insert your fingers gently and use soft, gentle motions at first. When you feel the G spot area becoming enlarged, apply a little more pressure.
- Remember to pay attention to other parts of your body… your breasts… your clitoris and all other parts of your body that feel good to touch, stroke and massage.
- As your body begins to respond positively and you start feeling pleasure, use more pressure and more rapid motions.
- As you continue to stimulate the G spot, you may feel your vagina clench and bear down, the signal that a G spot orgasm is imminent. Apply more pressure, stroking and manipulating the area.
- You may feel the urge to pee. Don’t fight it. You may be getting ready to ejaculate. Relax, trust your body and see what happens.
You may find G spot stimulation easier and more pleasurable in positions other than on your back. Try rolling over on your stomach or getting on all fours. Women don’t usually enjoy penetration until they are somewhat aroused. Engage in whatever foreplay you find arousing… touching, kissing, stroking, licking, oral sex, talking and whatever else works for you.
G spot stimulation should take place during or near the end of sex play, not at the beginning. Use lubrication when you are ready for penetration, even if your body is already producing its own natural juices – which can often run dry at the most inopportune moments.
And that’s all there is to it. No magic. No mystery.
Some women can orgasm from G spot stimulation. Some say it increases the strength of their orgasms or allows them to be multi-orgasmic. A few even say that G spot stimulation leads to ejaculation or “squirting”. Others dislike stimulation of this area altogether. As I said before, we are all different.
Don’t be afraid to experiment and discover what feels good for you. Most of all, enjoy yourself and have fun. And don’t forget… if you do enjoy G spot stimulation, be sure to teach your partner how to find it and what to do with it!